More Bessel van der Kolk on Safety…
“… mind, body, and brain need to be convinced that it is safe to let go. That happens only when you feel safe at a visceral level …”
Safety Is No. 1… No Safety = No Progress
I asked if his wife feels safe and what he is doing to cultivate safety for her …
He stammered and didn’t give a clear answer.
Betrayed Partners: Have You Heard the "Filing Cabinet" Metaphor?
Suddenly, you cannot simply look up a memory or a truth. Everything is contaminated.
My Picker's Broken: Betrayal. Staying with Him, Starting Over, or Going It Alone?
Compulsive users are expert liars, and you need to be an expert lie and liar detector.
You Hurt Me. Hear Me. Help Me. Hold Me.
The pain is like nothing else I’ve known.
You erased me.