You Hurt Me. Hear Me. Help Me. Hold Me.

Betrayal Trauma & Healing
Written By David

You Hurt Me

The pain is like nothing else I’ve known.
It’s so hard to put words to.
It’s total rejection, but that doesn’t describe the feeling.
It’s like you erased me.
Like I existed, but now do not.
It’s like I disappeared, yet I am still here, witness to this.

Don’t make me compare which of it is worse.
You gave of yourself to another, or others. It’s all the same.

You erased me.
It’s like I existed, but now do not.
It’s like I disappeared ... Yet I am still here.

Hear Me

Hear my pain.
I have never felt such pain.
I don’t know what to do with this pain.
It is in me and all around me.
I cannot escape this pain.

Hold Me

I want you to hold me, but you scare me.
You did this.
How could you do this?
My body fights with my need to be held by you.
I cannot let you hold me.

Help Me

What can you do? The abuser!
The reason for all of this!

For starters, you can stop it.
Stop hurting me.
I’ve hurt so much.
I have never hurt so much.

You could face me. That’d be good.
How can you see my pain if you don’t even face me?

You could listen to me. That would help.
You could join me in understanding my pain. That would help.

You could comfort me. Slowly. Gently. Sincerely.
Understand… you hurt me. I don’t trust you.
Understand that I don’t trust you.
I am fragile. I feel fragile is what I mean.
Understand this too.

You have power. Power to hurt me.
You have power. Power to hear me (I hope).
You have power. Power to hold me (I hope).
You have power. Power to help me (I hope).
You still scare me. I am still scared. And hurting.

My fear, my grief, my sadness is that I may never be able to trust you again.
I can’t see how I could.
Hear this too.

You hurt me. Hear me. Help me. Hold me.

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