This site has been born out of my desire to help others.

I am not a therapist. I am happy to help you find one however. I have had good and not-so-good experiences with them.

A sexy website is not my thing. I’m more about helping blokes get off porn

and unhealthy sexual behaviors at reasonable cost, so they can

actually have a life

with their partners, children and friends.

Porn and secrets rob people of real joy and satisfaction.

About me

I respect your privacy and confidentiality.

None of your information will be public. I will never sell or otherwise pass on any details you provide for commercial purposes.

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Male.
Married 28 years.
Born into a family where there was inter-generational alcohol use and dysfunction.
2 adult children. Both thankfully, doing very well.
Pornography use from an early age, introduced the first time at about age 10.
Exposed to violence and sexual experiences at an early age.
There was no safe place to be. Not home, not friends’ houses, not school, not work.
I had no safe person and none of the early experiences were processed appropriately.
I took up drugs and alcohol early.
Pornography was the soothing practice. Secret communication with women was normal for me. Lying to hide anything and everything to save face, to not get rejected or be left feeling abandoned. Eventually … infidelity.
Compulsions extended to overworking, hoarding, buying (“needing stuff”).
Behaviors included people-pleasing, avoiding, isolating, inability to be vulnerable, angering, depressive bouts, grandiosity (I can do anything), victim-thinking (I have no agency), hyper-independency, averse to figures in authority,

Now:

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